Time HeaLs

Tonight i watch a movie that made me thought about comprenhension of life. Two days before going to Sweden my uncle died, the youngest brother of my father died in a weekend. He was an alcoholic but he tried many times to quit, he couldn't, he got this sicness in the liver that got complicated. On friday morning he went to the doctor just to receive the news that there was no more hope, by sunday afternoon my cousin and her uncle needed to brake into the house cause my uncle wasn't answering unfortunately it was too late his liver and brain were dead. On monday night he died in the hospital. The whole family was there, my dad didn't make it, he arrived just 5 minutes after the doctor gave us the news, he was in the States. I saw my dad cry for the second time in my life and my granfather for the first time. Between all the feelings and thoughts I had in that moment it really concerned me my trip to Sweden I wanted to stay to be by my dad's side but at the same time I didn't want to disapoint my friends who were waiting for me. My dad told me that life goes on and so I took my plane two days after.
Two weeks ago I dreamed about my uncle, he was in my house with all the family and nobody could see him, just me and he looked happy, he was laughing, he looked healthy, when I told my dad he cried again but I took my dream as a sign that he was ok. What I can't understand now is that ok life goes on and they say everything heals with the time but scars are forever right? So how can you be the same person when you have suffer many losts or very painful things in your life? You go on for sure, you keep on doing your things, keep holding your plans, rutines bla bla. I saw my dad two days ago, his look is so diferent that I wanted to cry, his hair turned a little bit gray, I know that he will never be the same its like a part of his soul is lost. I wonder if there is anybody who can really overcome the situations with a perfect healing and no scar just understanding that thats the way it is, I can't, I might understand it but it still hurts it will always hurt as it has been with all the losts I've experienced in my family and friends. How can you be the same?